Likability

Here's a cool piece of advice from writer Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie:

So what I want to say to young girls is forget about likability. If you start thinking about being likable you are not going to tell your story honestly, because you are going to be so concerned with not offending, and that’s going to ruin your story, so forget about likability. And also the world is such a wonderful, diverse, and multifaceted place that there’s somebody who’s going to like you; you don’t need to twist yourself into shapes.

via: NYmag

Sheryl Sandberg's Facebook letter

Yesterday, Sheryl Sandberg wrote a beautiful post on Facebook about the loss of her husband and her period of grief. Her honesty is relatable to anybody who has been through mourning. As much as you appreciate and loved the time you had, you just want Option A, even though it's time to move to another plan. How very real it is to want something that had made you so happy that it breaks your heart. She reminds us that it's so important to live with presence and acknowledgment of others.

Read the entire post below:

wear to work / stripes

[ top: Calvin Klein / trousers: Banana Republic / Shoes: BP. Shoes ]

My photographer friend caught me on this outfit today when he was testing out his new Nikon DSLR. The pictures came out great (the camera has a great built-in wi-fi capability, which I'm in love with). I thought it would be a great opportunity to show what I normally wear - as simple as it is - here.

Photography: Tavio Valencia